I want to share one of my most enduring stories of a counselor that applied my program to the following situation. It is an example of how this program helps one through the grief process.
A man had come to see a counselor that was recommended to him. I will call her, Dee. His story was very sad. His wife had left him, his daughter was leaving for college, and his mother had died of a sudden heart attack. Sadly, since his wife had left the family, his mother was his sons care giver while his father went to work. As most grandmothers she was very comforting and loving to her grandson. This man was overwhelmed with grief.
Dee decided to show him The Figwort Concept. She explained to him it was very important to deal with one situation at a time. Apply the eight feeling words and walk through the four rules. Dedee mentioned several times her concern for his son. The man’s response; ‘He is fine!’
Dee did not hear from this man again for five years. He insisted he needed to see her immediately. When he arrived, Dee shared with him, she was shocked when he called due to the fact she hadn’t heard from him. Maybe he thought the program was too elementary. He told her the most heartwarming story. He said, ” I did exactly what you suggested.”
He had to drive everyday through the desert to get to work. That is when he chose to deal with all his situations, one at a time. He said there were many days, he was so sad, he would pull over to the side of the road, and sob. Then there were days he was so angry, he would pull over and throw rocks. He worked through each situation, each feeling and applied them to all the rules. One day, he was driving to work and said… I am ok!
Dee said, Wow! That is amazing! But I need to ask you, why are you here? He said, “I need you to teach my son the same concept that you taught me.”
He gave Dee permission to share his story. I was blown away when she shared it with me. I love this story and I am very thankful to God for giving me the knowledge to create The Figwort Concept TM
Dee shared with me that she has taught many people my concept. She has noticed, when men get it. they get it.
Kathy Stallo